When starting university, it’s standard protocol that everyone will load you with advice – yet looking back, nobody even attempted to guide me about the ins and outs of having casual sex. Entering the world of College can be overwhelming, and regardless of how much experience you’ve had, I don’t think anything compares to the newfound freedom that you’re gifted with at university.
Sex is a big part of this freedom, and if you choose to, then wholeheartedly embrace it. Having sex is normal, and it’s fun, and contrary to what some people might try and tell you, it has absolutely no correlation to your level of self respect. Choosing to sleep with lots of people isn’t any reflection on your character, nor is it anyone else’s business. Just do what makes you happy; if this involves no sex at all, then that’s completely fine as well. The pressure to have sex can seem immense, but stay true to yourself and keep in mind that the only sex life people actually pay any attention to is their own.
It’s also important to remember that casual sex is exactly what the name describes – it’s just sex. It can be difficult if emotions get involved, and sleeping with someone doesn’t mean that they’ll want to pursue anything further. I can’t emphasise enough how much it means to have close friends that will always be there to support you (or give dirty looks to anyone that didn’t show you the respect you deserved, as my friends often did).
A final, pretty crucial point, is that University can be a small place. Don’t be surprised if you bump into your most recent shag in the library. Speaking from experience, just acknowledge them – it’s a lot less awkward than pretending you don’t know who they are. Have fun, be safe, and don’t be afraid to make the most of your uni experience!
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